95% of Americans do it before saying "I do," yet it's unusual to read a serious political defense of premarital sex.
Conservative advocates of abstinence dominate the political discourse, and even sex-ed programs tout it. That means "sex-positive liberals" need to step up with their side of the argument, writes Jill Fillipovich.
"Having sex before marriage is the best choice for nearly everyone," she writes, and government money shouldn't go towards telling people to wait. Here are her reasons why:
It's never worked: "We are literally funding an idea that has never worked in all of human history."
Waiting is correlated with failed marriages: couples who wait marry earlier, and that's linked to higher divorce rates, and unhappier marriages.
Sex is good for you: it makes you happier, healthier, and longer-lived - and if you wait until marriage you're likely to have less of it.
Not everyone gets married: "The instruction to wait forever to experience a fundamental human pleasure is pointless and cruel."
If you wait, how do you know if you'll be sexually compatible? "The inboxes of advice columnists from Dan Savage to Dear Prudie are filled with letters from couples with mismatched sex drives and bad sex lives."